Preparing to be a Dad Again
My oldest daughter is getting married in about 5 weeks. I've run the gamut of emotions. Extreme happiness (I'm gaining an office), joy, sadness....to be honest I am thrilled. Our future son in law is uber responsible...owns two homes...has a great job and most of all he loves my daughter. He's a Christian too which was at the top of the list.
I have also felt a sense of relief. I was the bad cop...my wife the good cop...and frankly I was getting tired of it. My relief comes in the form of now being more her Dad than her father. I am enjoying who she is and I can stop being concerned about stuff that doesn't matter.
I'm looking forward to having another son. Her fiance and I have completed at least one project together at their new home. It was fun and we got along great. I admit that making myself think of him as a SON will take some time but I believe I will enjoy it.
I'm looking forward to seeing my daughter mature and be a virtuous wife. Both her and her fiance knew what they were looking for in a spouse and when they found it they stopped looking. At first this sort of took me aback but then I realized I had done the same thing when I met Mrs. EB.
Life is starting to make a full circle and while mine isn't quite closed yet the prospects of getting older, having grandchildren etc. doesn't seem so bad.
Now if it didn't hurt so much to climb those stairs....
update: I've added the song Kite by U2...it's about Bono's kid growing up...thought it appropriate
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Life doesn't come in single emotions, and sometimes they just pile up in a heap, and like spagetti, are impossible to untangle!
Congratulations on this new stage in life, enjoy it!
tmw
callow
Comment by the merry widow— 2007/02/02 @ 06:03 AM — (Reply)
Really, it's a testament to your parenting, that she want a man like her father, rather than some irresponisble P.O.C.
Comment by Brooke— 2007/02/02 @ 06:47 AM — (Reply)
I'm glad I still have a few years to go before I have to worry about who my daughter is dating and all the rest that goes along with that.
My guess is that your daughter learned responsibility from her parents and now you have to trust her to make the right decisions.
From what you said about her husband to be, it sounds like she has already made one.
How much does it cost to put on a wedding these days?
Comment by American Crusader— 2007/02/02 @ 07:59 AM — (Reply)
Brooke - it's more a testament to their mother and to the Lord...I was gone a good portion
AC - I told my daughter I had X amount of dollars and she had to stay in budget but to give you an idea the closest place to get married around here was about $7500 before they charge you for each table, chair, tablecloth etc.
it's not cheap
Comment by Elmers Brother— 2007/02/02 @ 08:35 AM — (Reply)
Comment by Elmers Brother— 2007/02/02 @ 09:06 AM — (Reply)
Butterfly Kisses would have been very appropos also! Especially for a daughter!
tmw
shrink
Comment by the merry widow— 2007/02/02 @ 09:44 AM — (Reply)
I envy you eb... mine's still a college freshman.
Tim McGraw, My Little Girl
Gotta hold on easy as I let you go
Going to tell you how much I love you
though you think you already know
I remember I thought you looked like angel wrapped in pink so soft and warm
you've had me wrapped around your finger since the day you were born
[Chorus]
Beautiful baby from the outside in
chase your dreams but always know the road that will lead you home again
go on, take on this old world but to me you know you'll always be my little girl
When you were in trouble that crooked little smile could melt my heart of stone
now look at you
I've turned around and you've almost grown
sometimes when you're alseep I whisper I love you in the moonlight at your door
as I walk away I hear you say "Daddy, love you more"
{Chorus}
Someday some boy will come and ask me for your hand
but I wont' say yes to him unless I know he's the half that makes you whole
he has a boy's soul
and the heart of a man's man
I know he'll say that he's in love but between you and me he won't be good enough
[Chorus}
Comment by Farmer John— 2007/02/02 @ 10:14 AM — (Reply)
fj - my youngest daughter loves that song by Tim Mcgraw
It's hard to put into words the sense of relief I have.
Comment by Elmers Brother— 2007/02/02 @ 10:32 AM — (Reply)
it makes me weepy to hear about a decent Christian father and mom who've raised a decent CHristian daughter who's met a decent Christian man. Well...you get the picture!!
It's so rare these days, it makes me well up.
Congratulations, Elmer's brother.....may God richly bless them in their marriage.........and may God bless you and Mrs. EB for raising a girl this wise. My sis has 3 kids and says she has prayed since the eldest (now 24) was born..'Dear God, somewhere, somehow, have a family raising a child worthy of my blessed child.."
I wish all parents could be as rightfully proud and hopeful of the future as you are. As I said, God bless you all.
z
Comment by zabelle— 2007/02/14 @ 06:09 PM — (Reply)
Comment by Elmers Brother— 2007/02/15 @ 03:29 AM — (Reply)
You and the Mrs. EB have got to be sooo proud.....I have a 4.5 yr old girl, I'm looking forward to and sort of dreading that day, your post is a reminder to cherish each day with the family and raise 'em right!
Comment by Joe Gringo— 2007/02/02 @ 11:17 AM — (Reply)
Congrats!!! What a great way of saying you are 'passing the wand' to her husband and respect their new unity. Some parents think they have to compete for their kids affection. Love is limitless.
Comment by Eyes— 2007/02/02 @ 12:18 PM — (Reply)
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Comment by voxjrkab— 2007/09/09 @ 11:40 PM — (Reply)
A wise parent learns to gradually let the string on that particular kite out and into G*D's Hands!
tmwlepta
Comment by the merry widow— 2007/02/02 @ 12:46 PM — (Reply)
Ooh, tell me about it!
Congratulations on your welcoming a new member to your family!
But remember the old adage: "A son is a son until he takes a wife. A daughter is a daughter for the rest of her life."
Comment by Always On Watch— 2007/02/02 @ 03:27 PM — (Reply)
AoW - I won't forget
Hi eyes, well His love is that way isn't it?
Comment by Elmers Brother— 2007/02/02 @ 05:11 PM — (Reply)
Comment by Barry G.— 2007/02/02 @ 05:12 PM — (Reply)
Joe - it's so exciting to see this part in their life, I'm relishing it and you will too
Comment by Elmers Brother— 2007/02/02 @ 05:23 PM — (Reply)
Seriously, you deserve to be a proud papa. Great work!
Comment by Barry G.— 2007/02/02 @ 05:26 PM — (Reply)
Comment by Elmers Brother— 2007/02/02 @ 05:50 PM — (Reply)
you are such the soft touch. i could cry right now. again.
oh well, tears of joy!
i'm sure with you as a constant in their lives, there will be no shortage of good stories?
Comment by nanc— 2007/02/02 @ 06:14 PM — (Reply)
I just take a whiz after cutting fresh jalapenos
Comment by Elmers Brother— 2007/02/02 @ 08:06 PM — (Reply)
Comment by Sleazy— 2007/02/04 @ 12:13 PM — (Reply)
Comment by Elmers Brother— 2007/02/05 @ 05:22 AM — (Reply)
just stopping by to make sure you don't get chilly ankles...
teapot
Comment by nanc— 2007/02/06 @ 09:42 AM — (Reply)
Getting closer! So are you losing a daughter or gaining a son?
Comment by American Crusader— 2007/02/06 @ 10:33 AM — (Reply)
Hey pallie EM, thanks for droppin' by the ilovedinomartin Dinoblog. I also mod a cool Dinopad Dinodiscussion group over at yahoo. If you'd like to get in on the Dinoaction, just send a little Dinogram and we'd be Dinodelighted to have you come aboard. Never was, never will be anyone as cool as the King of Cool.
Comment by dino martin peters— 2007/02/06 @ 11:34 AM — (Reply)
AC...gaining someone else to love
dino thanks for stopping by
Comment by Elmers Brother— 2007/02/06 @ 11:57 AM — (Reply)
thank you, and i for you in the upcoming nuptials...may there be an event to remember!
brook
hey, now - have you been talking to nancpop? he'll ask me occasionally, "what're you babylon about brook?"
Comment by nanc— 2007/02/06 @ 03:40 PM — (Reply)
Congrats! Seems like this stuff is happening FASTER and FASTER! Does it to you? My best wishes to you and your family.
Joe
Comment by Joe Talbot— 2007/02/20 @ 09:11 PM — (Reply)
Comment by Elmers Brother— 2007/02/21 @ 06:20 AM — (Reply)