Overly sensitive blogger against free speech
Barry G. at asmalldoseofreality has been shut down because Shalana "last word" Millard can dish it out but can't take it. Anyone she disagrees with is an "idiot" or "stupid". In response she does what any self respecting liberal does and shuts down free speech. I am not exaggerating when I say she is the world's biggest hypocrite. I encourage you to send an email to Calin at bloghi and urge him to reconsider. Everything Shalana posts is offensive but no one has asked that she be shut down. I also encourage you to voice your displeasure with Ms. Millard by leaving her a comment and sharing what a complete *$%#! she is.
Meanwhile Shalana should take her medication and visit this site. It's full of other narcissists. There is this site with the following info also available to other sufferers of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Here is a sample:
NPD belongs to a class of personality disorders known as Cluster B, the "dramatic/emotional/erratic" personality disorders. This class includes Histrionic, Borderline, and Antisocial personality disorders. The most heavily researched personality disorders are two in this group, Borderline and Antisocial personality disorder. This is because people with these disorders appear for treatment in large numbers. Borderlines are often forced into treatment because of socially disruptive behavior. Antisocials often get into trouble with the law and are evaluated by court order, then forced into treatment. Current epidemiological research permits no reliable estimate of how prevalent NPD is in society.
Officially, the principal characteristics of NPD are:
| · | inflated self-esteem |
| · | lack of empathy for others |
| · | feeling entitled to special treatment and privileges |
| · | disagreeableness |
That says nothing about the all-consuming need for ALL available attention that bears fruit in these character traits.
Since the real world conflicts with their view of themselves, narcissists live in a fantasy world of their own creation. This is like the fantasy world little children live in. If you think way back to your earliest memories, you can barely remember what this fantasy world was like. Imagine it persisting into adulthood! Little children are the stars of their fantasies and are preoccupied with them. Imagine an adult with that going on in her or his head!
Like the fantasies of little children, these fantasies aggrandize the narcissist's importance, service, and accomplishments. (This is a child's way of coping with being so small and faulty and insignificant in a world of giants.) Their version of their participation in any endeavor leaves everybody else out of the picture. In fact, they may even drive another out of a picture to have the spotlight all to themselves.
A fantasy, of course, is a lie. One must constantly lie to oneself to maintain a fantasy.
A preference for fantasy over Truth is natural in little children. What magic thinking a lie and then believing it does! Magical Thinking is natural in little children, too. But children choose to leave Never Never Land at the proverbial Age of Reason. Narcissists never do. Since they lie to themselves constantly, malignant narcissists are pathological liars who lie to everybody else too.
Their sense of entitlement proceeds from these fantasies, these delusions of importance and grandeur. It exempts narcissists from rules that apply to others. This is common among the high and mighty who view themselves as superior: because they are superior they need an inferior set of standards to live up to. (Their upside-down logic, not mine.)
Narcissists are prone to rage when others don't behave in a way that echoes or reflects their grand specialness. In other words, at the drop of a hat. Sometimes this is a seething rage, sometimes a violent one. Rage is a primitive emotion, common in little children during a temper tantrum but rare in adults. Adults normally experience rage only in extreme situations like combat or when under attack by the severe abuse of some willful and wanton outrage. Even then, adults rarely let 'er rip. Like absolute dictators, narcissists feel no need to restrain themselves — unless the coast isn't clear and they might get a bad reputation or land in jail. In other words, they are as irresponsible as children, too.
Nothing is so aggrandizing as power. Hence narcissists are control freaks. Like Katharina (the shrew) in Shakespeare's Taming of the Shrew, they cross people and disagree at every turn. They play Keep Away with things others want. In short, they deal in power plays. To feel their power, they domineer. Whenever they can get away with it, they boss people around to a ridiculous degree by issuing arbitrary and pointless orders, such as to sit in a different chair or to clean a different room first. Always testing boundaries, they learn at a young age the art of "shock and awe" in using a sudden temper tantrum to blind-side and run over a playmate. Since power used to bash and destroy is spectacular, and power used to defend or build isn't so much fun, they bash and destroy. They get a big charge — almost erotic pleasure — out of bashing and destroying, because of the power rush they get. And they view others as objects to be powerful on.
So, they have as much regard for others' feelings as we do for a nail we are hitting with a hammer. Which is why they have no compunctions about exploiting people.
Narcissists are not the only people who have no empathy/humanity though. Neither do psychopaths. And neither do infants or toddlers, who will abuse smaller children and animals on a whim with nothing but keen interest in the victim's suffering. In fact, all people can revert to this mental state by turning off their human sensibilities like a light switch. This ability is adaptive. It enables us to function in ordeals such as combat or natural disaster. Unfortunately, it also enables us to watch a lynching or a burning at the stake or the Holocaust. Narcissists and psychopaths are unique in that they have that light switch permanently turned off for everyone but themselves. And I mean "everyone," even their own children.
In fact, they don't know what humanity is. They think it's having hurt feelings. Since their feelings are easily hurt, they think they have humanity. Which would be funny if it wasn't so pathetic.
They do try to pass for normal. It is well documented that they often (badly) imitate the normal human feelings they see in others by putting on melodramatic shows of "concern" and "sympathy" that are so overdone one sometimes wonders if it is parody. For example, at a funeral they don't know how they should feel, so they watch other people, trying to mimic their expressions of emotion.
Since no one but the narcissist is worthy of any attention/regard in his version of the world, the narcissist hates it when reality intrudes on this delusion. He is typified by the wicked queen on the fairy tale of Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs: "Mirror, mirror on the wall, who is the fairest of them all?" Like her, the narcissist is consumed with pathological envy. He projects this distressing emotion off onto the one he envies. That is, he fantasizes that the victim envies him. That gives the narcissist all the excuse he needs to "protect" himself by attacking.
We normally think of little children as sweet and innocent. But, when you think twice, you realize that it's a good thing they're so small, inexperienced, and controllable. (See Now We Are Six by Joanna Ashmun.) Indeed, it is often (and truly) said that the most terrible thing in the world is a grown up child. Take Adolph Hitler, for example. Nero. Saddam Hussein. Josef Stalin. Power without accountability.
So, if you are dealing with a malignant narcissist, never forget for a moment that you are dealing with a mind that works exactly like a little child's. It is as impulsive as a little child's. And reason and morality will have no more influence on it than they have on a little child's.
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Comment by Dugg— 2006/09/01 @ 10:55 AM — (Reply)
Comment by jim— 2006/09/01 @ 11:42 AM — (Reply)
Have the FBI, CIA or NSA come calling on you because of your incessant attacks on the President? Don't get riled, there's a point here... Shalana's complaints don't pass the smell test for censorship.
She is in no imminent danger.
It can't really be called inciteful unless she is planning to go postal.
She is not suffering any measurable harm - no lost wages - no personal or property losses.
Unlike TV (a push media), the internet is a "pull" medium which means you have to go actively looking for information. These are encounters she could easily avoid by simply going to her blog directly. I'm not saying she doesn't have reason to be miffed and even offended, just that the whole censorship thing isn't right either. But this kind of "tolerance" is a cornerstone for progressives, these days. It's a "you can talk if I like what you're saying" mentality. If Pino can call for the deaths of my husband and his coworkers, and you can preach a Bush-is-the-devil-incarnate philosophy, just where do you draw the line? Calling someone a racist? Are you serious?
I'm not a fan of the name-calling but it doesn't merit Barry's blog being shut down.
Comment by Cate— 2006/09/01 @ 03:51 PM — (Reply)
Comment by Cynthia McKinney and her ilk are whack jobs— 2006/09/01 @ 03:59 PM — (Reply)
Comment by Cynthia McKinney and her ilk are whack jobs— 2006/09/01 @ 03:59 PM — (Reply)
Once I am up and running again I am going to run a series on free speech and what it means and does not mean.
Comment by Barry G.— 2006/09/01 @ 12:52 PM — (Reply)
Comment by Elmers Brother— 2006/09/01 @ 01:35 PM — (Reply)
Comment by jim— 2006/09/01 @ 01:40 PM — (Reply)
Comment by Barry G.— 2006/09/01 @ 01:50 PM — (Reply)
Comment by aza spade— 2006/09/01 @ 03:07 PM — (Reply)
that stinks when good people get shut down and creeping lowlife vermin like the buttplug and now this woman can run rampant over us!
react
Comment by nanc— 2006/09/01 @ 03:14 PM — (Reply)
Who got shut down, by who and why?
Comment by Web ACLU Monitor— 2006/09/01 @ 03:19 PM — (Reply)
Comment by aza spade— 2006/09/01 @ 03:33 PM — (Reply)
Comment by Cynthia McKinney and her ilk are whack jobs— 2006/09/01 @ 03:43 PM — (Reply)
Comment by aza spade— 2006/09/01 @ 04:08 PM — (Reply)
Comment by Democrats, Liberals, Progressives & Leftists Stink— 2006/09/01 @ 04:12 PM — (Reply)
Once again, you're off target on me, Barry. I meant what I said - I don't support either of your opinions. I'm an Independent thinker.
Comment by Dugg— 2006/09/01 @ 04:21 PM — (Reply)
Comment by Cynthia McKinney and her ilk are whack jobs— 2006/09/01 @ 05:14 PM — (Reply)
Comment by aza spade— 2006/09/01 @ 05:17 PM — (Reply)
I don't try to hide that I am a conservative and I won't apologize for it
Comment by Elmers Brother— 2006/09/01 @ 09:22 PM — (Reply)
Comment by Cynthia McKinney and her ilk are whack jobs— 2006/09/01 @ 05:19 PM — (Reply)
Comment by MOS— 2006/09/08 @ 03:16 AM — (Reply)
nt to debate the issues because every time she did her pitiful shallow liberal arguments got shot down in flames, personally I think that's why she banned us...it's embarrassing to get your *ss handed to you on your own blog. Then it turned, she couldn't win an argument so she got angry and then started the personal attacks and the cussing, then eventually she just banned us because we weren't "staying on topic" This despite the fact that she would segue from abortion to rush limbaugh to accusations of using RNC talking points. What she wants is a Bunch of people who agree with her. If she had any people skills she might actually have some readers even among the people who disagree with her. See for yourself how many readers she has.
Comment by Elmers Brother— 2006/09/01 @ 05:40 PM — (Reply)
Comment by Democrats, Liberals, Progressives & Leftists Stink— 2006/09/01 @ 05:58 PM — (Reply)
Comment by Brooke— 2006/09/02 @ 07:41 AM — (Reply)